Good things come to those who wait…
“So basically, I’m 21, been reading erotica and watching porn for as long as I remember, and I’ve always been pretty comfortable touching myself, but I was never able to get myself to have the mind-blowing experience everyone seemed to describe.
When I was 18 I caught the attention of a guy 7 years older than me, we went out and we touched in the back of his car and I had a good time. I thought maybe I could let myself go with this guy, but sadly the second date was kind of a bummer. We were in his car again and his dirty talk did the opposite of turning me on. I really tried to get into it and I let him eat me out and I was enjoying it but then he fingered me a bit too abruptly (I was a virgin and hadn’t really tried fingering myself) and all I could think about was how much I wanted to be at home. After that, I just wasn’t comfortable with him so I stopped answering his calls.
After that experience I was left with a “that’s it?”-feeling. I kept thinking that maybe my body just wasn’t going to react or maybe that experience people talked about was something exaggerated, and that that vague nice feeling I had when reading erotica would be pretty much it.
But then I found your blog and reading about other people’s experiences, that each body has different reactions and that there are so many ways to get there. I felt much more confident about it and much more open to trying new things out.
When I finally got the house for myself today, I grabbed a pillow, put it on top of a bottle of coke (it was the only big and hard enough thing I had! lol) and put a nice video on my computer. Grinding against it felt quite nice and I did it for a while but I wasn’t reaching it. Instead of giving up, I tried using my fingers on my clit. Usually I never do it for a long time, but I was concentrating on the video so I kept going (I also used saliva - big helper!) and suddenly I started to have these small sparks of a really good feeling so I kept going more and more and it started to feel SO good, and then suddenly my entire body had this really warm and amazing feeling that was like nothing I had felt before.
It lasted a few seconds and I’m not 100% sure it was exactly an orgasm but again, i had NEVER felt anything like it so if anything, it was definitely the closest thing to one my body has ever felt, and I could definitely associate that to the feeling people talk about.
So I just wanted to thank you and all the people who shared their stories because it has helped me so much! I honestly had given up on ever feeling something like that and hopefully, my story might give someone else hope and courage to try different things!”
Yay, that’s so awesome! And yep, I know there are plenty of people out there who are a bit frustrated and stuck with the pleasure they do/don’t feel, so I hope they see messages like this and know that things can randomly, deliciously fall into place when you least expect it.
“It all started out at my friends house, where we were having a bonfire with a large group of my friends. we were all drinking and getting high and just having a good time. I had been joking and laughing with my best guy friend Josh, who I’ve always secretly had a crush on, but while we were talking, two of my guy friends decided to pick me up and throw me in the pool! I was soaking wet and freezing, so I went upstairs to take a shower and change clothes. When I walked out of the bathroom I could barely walk straight cuz I was still drunk and pretty high.
When I was getting changed there was a knock on the door and I assumed it was one of my girl friends, so I opened it with only my bra and underwear on. Instead it was Josh! He just leaned against the doorway and obviously checked me out so I crossed my arms self consciously and turned around to go put some clothes on, but when I turned, he just reached out and gently grabbed one of my arms and pulled me back towards him. I turned and waited for him to say something but he just smiled and took a step closer to me so that we were only a few inches apart. Then he just slid his hands around my waist and pulled me up against him.
He’s a lot taller than me so when he pulled me up against him I could feel his dick hard under his shorts. I was so shocked and turned on at the same time that I didn’t know what to do! We just stood there for a few moments while he ran his fingertips up and down my body, and then finally, he leaned down really slowly and kissed me. I felt myself shiver the kiss was so hot!
We made our way over to the bed where he laid me down and got on top of me. While we were making out he slowly kissed up and down my body while stroking me through my underwear. I could feel myself soaking through my underwear I was so turned on, and he slowly slid his hand into my underwear and felt my wetness! When he slipped his middle finger inside me I moaned and arched my back. He took one of my nipples in his mouth and teased me while he fingered me and I couldn’t stop squirming as I felt myself building into an orgasm. I just kept arching my back and grabbing the sheets to try and keep from moaning too loud. Finally he kissed all the way down to my belly button and then got this devious smile on his face and kissed up and down my thighs until I was begging him to fuck me.
He just began to lick and explore me and it FELT SO AMAZING! I began to arch my back and move against him and grabbed the back of his head to pull him closer to me. When I orgasmed I gasped so loudly and I felt myself shudder and it just was AMAZING!
But even after my orgasm he continued to finger me and I could feel myself building again. We began to kiss again and I could taste myself on his lips and it just turned me on even more! I reached down and began to jerk him off, gently running my hand up and down his dick. when he finally couldn’t take it anymore he buried himself in me and we began to fuck. I was moaning so loud because he just kept pounding into my G-spot and I just couldn’t control myself - I orgasmed two more times while we had sex and the look on his face when he came inside me was so sexy!
After it was over we got dressed and went downstairs to the rest of my friends but no one had even noticed we were gone even though it had been over an hour! I couldn’t stop thinking about it the whole night and I kept having to go to the bathroom and touch myself because I just kept getting so turned on!”
How to flirt with another girl…
“I always have these really hot fantasies about my friend, and one of them is just us making out and that turns me on. How do I see if she wants to do things without creeping her out?”
“How do I ask/offer someone to be friends with benefits? I’m bicurious and want to try stuff with my best friend, but without it being awkward if she says no. How could I bring it up?”
“Hey, so recently I’ve started having a lot of sexual dreams about one of my best friends. It’s never actual sex in the dreams, but I dreamt about us kissing and making out several times and one dream I turned up to her house and we were both naked. I’m not sure I’d consider myself bisexual but the more I think about it the more I really want to get it on with this friend to the point where I’m constantly checking her out when we’re together and imagining doing anything with her gets me really turned on.
I know she’s definitely attracted to girls but I don’t know if she’s attracted to me and I have no idea how to bring this up to her and I’m scared of ruining our friendship.
Any ideas of how I could suggest I want to try stuff out with her? And does this mean I actually have feelings for her too?”
OK! So obviously all flirting is tricky but it’s not impossible. Just ask these girls!
If you already flirt a little physically, then you can always just take it to the next level and see what happens. Play with your friend’s hair, cuddle up when you’re sleeping over, look into her eyes a little after you’ve hugged, all that kind of stuff. Yay, sexual tension.
If you know your friend likes girls, you can ask about her love life, like who she’s crushing on, and if she just talks about boys you can be like “how about girls?” And then you can be all “‘cos I’ve been thinking about girls lately…” and see what happens :)
Or you can always go for the tried-and-tested "I had the craziest dream about you!" thing. Then you can talk about the idea of kissing being hot ("you are such a good dream-klsser!") but you can also be like "wow dreams are dumb and weird right" if you need to be.
If you’re super-brave you can even just be all sassy and direct, like, "hey, wanna make out?" Sometimes that can totally work! And if she’s all "um, nah" you can just laugh it off a little like "sorry, I’m just being a hornball, let’s swiftly move on to CAKE" (that last bit only really works if you have a cake.)
In general just be affectionate and flirty and having a conversation about girl-girl stuff can be a way to broach the topic. Just treat it like it is - a fun idea you could try together rather than a Big Serious Deal - and nothing bad can come of it. Good luck…
i think the devil’s in my inbox guys
“I wanted to share a quick little tidbit of what happened to me recently! Well, first, me and my boyfriend are in a long distance relationship. It has been 6 months since the last time I saw him last. Well, 2 weeks ago we reunited and let me tell you…it was amazing. We wasted no time in the sex department. It was crazy. I am spending the month with him too and so basically everyday we have had sex (even when I was on my period!) Earlier today, we decided to be a bit romantic and have a hot bath with one another. It was nice and calm at first. We were just rubbing each other down in the tub, you know, naked…but we just had sex before so I was not thinking it was going to progress into more. I was way wrong. He put me down on my back in the tub and began rubbing my clit right away. It felt so good in the hot water. Phew. Just perfect. It was not even a minute later when I felt my legs shaking and BOOM orgasm. It was defiantly one of the best feelings I ever felt in my life and by far the best orgasm I ever had. I recommend having a bath with your partner ASAP. So perfect.”