“My friend and I (we’re both girls) made out on a dare the other day, and it was pretty much the hottest thing ever, and I’m not sure how to ask her if she wants to do something more? I’ve been fantasizing about her and stuff, and I don’t know if she’s even interested. I find her so attractive and stuff, but I’m a virgin and pretty inexperienced in general? Any advice?”
I think you just have to find a way to bring up the time you made out in conversation, and mention that it was hot and that she was a great kisser and that she can make out with you any time. Like maybe when you’re alone together or you’re at a party or something?
Anyway, good luck, we’re all rooting for you!
"Any tips for eating chocolate sauce off of your significant other?"
be your own best lover!
it’s kind of telling that people always write asking if there’s such a thing as masturbating too much but nobody EVER writes asking if there’s such a thing as having too much sex.
but masturbation is just another kind of sex - just with yourself. you wouldn’t think it was dumb if your boyfriend/girlfriend stayed the weekend and during that time you spent two whole hours one evening having great sex in all the ways and getting each other off a lot until you’re all exhausted and satisfied and covered in cum, but guess what? it’s totally legit to have that same sexual relationship with yourself too.
you know how you chat with your friends about things, but amazingly, when alone, you also just think about things? they’re two things that go together, right? imagine if you said "I was thinking to myself the other day…" and people were like "ew, thinking to yourself? couldn’t find anyone to talk to?"
and in the same way nobody would say about languorous lovemaking with your partner, “ergh shouldn’t you have done other stuff like discuss the crisis in the ukraine or conjugate latin verbs?”, because sex feels great and people are horny. and it’s the same with making yourself feel good, it’s nice, people are horny, it’s definitely as good as watching Friends re-runs.
so once you accept that it’s just another kind of sex, you can embrace the extra fun stuff even more! you know how it’s fun to randomly turn on a partner or tease them or make them cum so hard they nearly pass out? you can take the same satisfaction from doing that for yourself too.
it’s just like how you have to learn to be a good friend to yourself (caring! supportive! patient!) rather than a bad friend (callous! judgemental! snappy!) which is kind of a life-long project if you ask me. being a good lover to yourself (giving! inventive! understanding!) rather than a bad one (guilty! self-conscious! hurried!) is kinda the same thing… but with orgasms.
yeah so i slept with this dude last night and idk we were chatting a bit during the sexy time and for some reason his birthday came up and i was like “wait 25th of september? DUDE me TOO, wtf thats such a coincidence” and he was like “really? we have the same birthday? are u fuckin with me?” and i just looked down at his penis literally inside my vagina and was like “well technically yeah” and he was like haha nice one and high fived me
"Please! Please can I cum, miss?"
"Do you need to cum?"
"Yes miss… please…"
So this is two ladies roleplaying a kind of gently dommy-subby situation over the phone… and getting off lots and lots. And it’s very cute. And hot. And oh just listen to it.
Source: SoundCloud / comeplaywithus
Safe lesbian sex
“I’m a virgin and I’m hoping that’ll change soon! This will be my first lesbian relationship, and I’m just wondering how to practice safe sex. Are there ways of preventing STIs and STDs when the intercourse is between 2 women? Thanks love, I hope to hear from you :)”
Hey! Fun times.
OK I’m assuming from your ‘virgin’ status you won’t have any STI’s to give to her. So that’s that sorted. As it sounds like you have a particular girlfriend in mind, probably the easiest thing is if she just got tested, and when she comes back clear you can basically just roll around and do what you want without taking any particular precautions!
In general it’s pretty rare for two girls to transmit STIs between each other because the incidence of infection is much lower than it is for straight girls. For hookups with people whose STI-free status you’re uncertain about, you can avoid sharing sex toys (without washing them in between or putting one condom on for her and then a different for you) or touching her and then touching yourself.
Also don’t go down on someone if you’ve got a cracked/sore lip (in case it’s a coldsore, i.e: herpes, which can leap off your face and onto her vagina) and have clean hands before you get all touchy down there, just so you aren’t getting random world-germs into each other’s ladyparts.