“Two of my friends and I all turned 18 this August. We all wanted to get something that commemorated the fact that we were now “adults”. There’s this really sketchy sex shop on the edge of town that we decided to go to and purchase matching vibrators. I have wanted a vibrator for a while, but never knew how to get one without my parents knowing. So to be honest, I was really glad that my two friends were willing to buy ones with me.
After I bought it, I didn’t realize how intimidating the actual vibrator was going to be! I’m a virgin, and barely ever use tampons. I usually get off by rubbing my clit. In my mind, the only way you could use a vibrator was to insert it inside yourself. When I was home alone today, I decided to put it to use. After many failed attempts to get it inside of me, I started to massage my inner labia with the tip of it. It just felt so nice and relaxing. Instead of holding the vibrator so that on the tip touched my body, i pressed it against me so the whole length of the vibrator was against my body. It was stimulating the lips of my vagina as well as my clit. The sensation was incredible. I never made myself feel so aroused. I orgasmed almost 4 times in a row, each time my body would convulse in pleasure to this new kind of amazing orgasm. So even though I couldn’t get the vibrator inside me, I’m still glad I got it!”
Yeah! Using a vibrator on your clit is the #1 to use it, even when they’re dick-shaped. Sure, they might be shaped that way so you have the opportunity to use it for penetration if you want, but actually most girls use them externally (or at least that’s the thing that makes them come!) and they’re just lovely used that way.
“I have a few questions about my own kink/kinks in general. So I kind of have this tickling kink and I, as well as a lot of other girls I know (from tumblr) with this kink, all feel similarly about it. We’re all kind of ashamed of it and embarrassed by it for the most part. Also, a lot of us like tickling in also a cute, platonic, friendly way (like if our friends tickled us, we’d be so extremely happy) but I’m confused by that and worried that that’s “wrong” or something because it’s also a kink. So I guess my questions are: how do you get over feeling ashamed of your own kink? And is it possible to really enjoy something as a kink, but also separately as a totally platonic enjoyment?”
I think you’re blowing this a teensy-bit out of proportion? It’s not an especially weird turn-on, and I don’t really think it needs the ‘kink’ designator. It’s like if someone said they had a ‘kissing kink.’ It’s just something you like?
There’s literally 0% reason to be ashamed of this. Why would it be shameful? There answer is ‘no answer’, because there is no reason! It’s not doing anything wrong or creepy or whatever. If your dream sexual experience is a guy going to town on your feet with a feather duster, so be it.
“I have a very unusual kink. I like to think up sex games. Games like too hot or my own game where each partner has 30 seconds to try and make the other partner moan, gasp or say anything but either kissing or touching. If the partner being touch or kissed moans they lose and have to do a round of sex of whatever the winner wants. Games like these turn me on so much, is that weird or perfectly find to have a kink of teasing?”
You see, again: actually, not unusual at all!
There are a whole lot of other little sexy things involving being pinned down, squirming, touched intimately, squealing and begging for mercy – in fact it’s maybe one of the most popular families of fantasies! So, the real problem isn’t the “kink”, but maybe that you’ve convinced yourself you’re a pervert with an outrageously deviant desire… when actually there’s something fairly innocuous and vanilla that gets you off. (The clue is that you’ve found lots of other people that like it too!)
So, daydream away, and, y’know… chill.
“So I’ve noticed that i should probably masturbate more often during the day! Like, its not bad in the evening, but I’ve discovered that I don’t get this little… high? I don’t know how exactly to describe it - i feel lighter and kinda giggly all of a sudden. I’m just in an incredibly good mood afterwards! At night I’m just kinda “oh, I’m done then.” do you have any idea why that might be?”
I think because when it’s nighttime, you are done – like, it’s time for bed, and everything is over. But in the daytime, you get to go about your day in a good mood!
Also, maybe when you start out touching yourself, it’s something you only feel confident doing at night, when everyone else is asleep. So when you do it in the daytime, it’s like an extra "I can literally do this whenever I want, fuck yeah!" treat. And especially as the daytime is meant to be the time for serious and productive endeavours, it’s that little bit more sneaky and exciting.
“Is it unusual to be turned-on after having done yoga? I was in a really good class recently and as we were cooling down afterwards things were heating up for me down below! I was worried I’d orgasm right there…am I the only one? Is there a reason behind it?”
Maybe it’s because exercise can increase your sex drive? Or maybe it’s because working out your core abdominal muscles can give some girls orgasms? Or maybe some other reason!
So, it’s not just you. And it sounds nice to me, anyway :)
My sexting partner is sad I won’t meet her…
“Okay so, I’m a 20 year old virgin girl who is mostly straight, with a bit of a thing for some girls. Anyway, about a year ago, I started talking to a friend who lives in another country. She’s also a ‘straight’ girl, a little older than me. Both of us being pretty much into sex but still virgins, we decided to “help each other out” by sexting. At first, it were just words but it changed quickly into nudes and videos of us masturbating. We would sometimes do it twice a day, being so horny for each other. We both still liked guys but we also both had this little crush on each other, but it being principally sexual attraction.
A month or so ago, she asked me if we could finally meet up and I wanted to, because not only is she great for all the sexting, she’s also pretty much fun to just talk with. But the more the plans were coming true, the more I back off, realizing I’ll soon have my first time, and it would be with a girl.
We got into a huge fight. I tried to explain it to her without making her lose her mind but she didn’t understand it. She said we didn’t have to do anything, but I knew I wouldn’t be able to resist her. The problem was that, not only was I scared to have my first time, I was also scared of the day I’ll find myself a boyfriend, I’ll have to explain to him I had sex with a girl.
She doesn’t know how badly I want her though. I want her lips, her tongue, her fingers, her body. I want to feel her and finally let her do everything she promised me and what I did to myself for so long.
This is not a post about a problem or a question or something, it’s just a story I needed to share because it’s not something I can explain easily to my friends. But I needed someone to understand me and listen to me.”
Aw, this sounds sad for both of you. I can see why it feels like a big step you don’t feel ready to take, and I can also understand why your friend is so very disappointed that you aren’t coming.
I will say, though, that you shouldn’t be scared of what a future hypothetical boyfriend will think. a) he probably won’t care, b) if he’s not an asshole, he definitely won’t care, and c) he doesn’t exist yet! Don’t let some hypothetical, judgemental person in the future get in the way of something you badly want in the here and now.
If you don’t see your friend, that’s OK, but the reason should be that you don’t want to see her. Whatever you choose, I’ve got my fingers crossed that you and your friend can keep talking and playing.
Sex toys that feel like oral sex…
“Hey there! I have a question regarding self pleasure. I’ve been absolutely loving your blog, and I really enjoy all of the cunnilingus posts. It’s always been a fantasy of mine but I’ve never actually received any oral sex, so I was wondering, is there a way to create the sensation of receiving cunnilingus while going solo?”
“Hey - I was wondering if you knew of any ‘cunnilingus’ toys? Or toys that give a similar sensation? I adore being eaten out, but being a single lady (and not getting much action as I’m not a fan of one night stands) I’m craving for someone to go down on me! A toy would be fabulous help…”
I found two! Above, the ‘Sqweel 2’, which is kind of a slightly-scary seeming ferris wheel of flicky tongue things but maybe kinda fun?
Also, the Lelo Ora:
And there’s a review of that here! It’s definitely very pretty. Have fun!
“Is it weird that thunder kinda turns me on?”
Storms are kinda sexy, sure!
“I recently got my first push-up bra and I love the way it makes my breasts look. I feel ridiculously sexy, but here’s the weird thing: is it strange to get turned on from the way my own breasts look? I feel really vain from this!”
Turning yourself on through your own undeniable sexiness is awesome, lovely and the very pinnacle of self-esteem. So enjoy yourself, girl!
Q:Ok so can we submit a pic anonymously? I love this blog and really wanna kinda do something slightly outta my usual comfort zone but I have to have it anon for work reasons etc.
Yeah, sure! (As long as you’re 18+.)
The submit page is here. You can log out of Tumblr and submit with a pretend email address if you really wanna, but even if you just submit something the regular way I’ll just copy the picture into an anonymous post and nobody will ever know :)